Putting yourself in others' shoes

We are often adviced to put ourselves in somebody's shoes. Not many people do that and that's what leads to misunderstandings and conflicts. I have personally seen many folks who simply refuse to see the logic on the other side and stick to their stance zealously.

I think my problem is just the opposite. I tend to put myself in others' shoes in almost all conflict situations. This is a problem for me because, I am not able to have any strong view points in most of the discussions. I end up being somebody with no conviction or killer instinct. It's probably better to truly believe in and fiercely defend a view point, however stupid it may be.